The good news is that doesn't last forever. My baby was like that till she was two and then I couldn't keep her near me without a leash! It's just temporary so don't worry too much about it. By the way, this is true of a lot of parenting problems.
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Your daughter has formed a really great attachment to you - she's smart and healthy. I know it's inconvenient for you for awhile, but it's true that this stage passes on its own. And, you can't really talk a one year old out of her feelings so don't waste your time! If she's not too heavy for you, stick her in a back pack and go about your business in the house - she'll be in heaven and you can get some things done. If you go that route, get a really well constructed carrier with a metal frame and use it for a few minutes at first, building up your back muscles by extending the holding time a few more minutes each day. After awhile you should be able to leave her on your back for one or two hours at a time without a problem. The back carrier leaves your hands free so you can do more things. If you don't like that idea, you can try a side sling -where the baby sits on your hip. This leaves at least one hand free while the other may help support the baby on your hip or it may be free as well, depending on the carrier. If you don't want to carry the baby at all, be prepared to have her cry for awhile while you do what you need to do - there's nothing that can be done to convince a one year old to change her tune if she isn't happy. Bringing her to the rooms you are in may help but isn't always practical if you have to run back and forth for a bit. Just do your best. You will not be spoiling her or harming her in any way by letting her be near you now. In fact, the more she trusts your consistent presence now, the more independent she will be a year from now. When we force babies to be "independent" before their time, they tend to have more dependency issues for a longer time into childhood. So, if you can, hire someone to do the housework and you sit and relax for a few months with this baby on your lap - it all passes so quickly, you might as well enjoy it! Sarah Chana
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walk over her and ignore her. she wants a reaction. if she cries for an hour let her. if she's clean fed ect then she'll be fine! it may get worse at first but eventually it will stop. just act like she's not even there when she's doing it
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are you serious on that last comment? c'mon already, these are babies and babies need our love and attention. It may been a little trying and yes sometimes inconvient and annoying, but this to shall pass and if our worst problem with our children is that they want us there all the time.. we have it pretty good! trust me I know all to well about the subject.. my home is a constant struggle to keep clean, dinners are rare to be made and I am up all hours of the night running my business for my 14 month old some wants to be literally attached to my hip all hours of the day and won't let me out of his site! I just try and do the best I can and cherish the time he wants me .. someday he won't!
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where's all the answers to these questions! i have a 9 month old that is the exact same way! she goes to daycare two days a week and the lady just called and said she didnt think she could give her the attention that she needs. she wont go to her father as well. is this just one of those children that needs that little bit of extra attention? or what!!?? or is she just being a little turd? should i put her in daycare full time just so she can have the structure more days a week? i'm confused!
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