I am the father of a 3 yr old her mother and I are not together. I recently walked in my daughters room and found her with her pant below her knees laying on her back rubbing her privates with a colored popcicle stick. when I asked her what she was doing she refussed to tell me. She finally told me but I had to raise my voice and threaten to throw her toys away before she would tell metell me(something I don't do, and I realize that I probably should have handled it a lot better, but I was not sure how to handle it. I was scared about what was going on. I reacted instead of responded) then motined with her finger what she was doing (she had her clothes on at this point, of course) I asked her where she knew how to do this and she told me that someone showed her (the mother's boyfriend). Later she said no one touched her and she doesn't want to talk about it anymore(this is after she had spent time with her mom). the mother wants me to talk to my daughter and get her to tell me that she was lieing about the person and not deal at all with the situatuion. Is it natural or OK that she was doing this? Everyone says that this "person" would never do anything like this, But I don't know him very well so I can't say the same. Is it possible that something happened as my daughter said?  why would her story change? Is she really lieing? What AM I to do now? I want the best for my daughter but honestly right now I am not sure what that is. People say it's normal for toddlers to touch themselves but this just seemed wierd and unusual for her to be using a stick. She even layed towels down on the floor first, as if it was an elaborate thought out process. Does my child need counciling?  More attention? should I really get her to tell me that she was lieing and not telling me the truth? That seems like it would cause more damage to the child then good. any advise would be helpful thanks.