I am a 55 yr old American Jewish woman, mother of a 21 yr. old son and married for the 2nd time to a lovely supportive Jewish American husband for 5 years now. I have lived in Vienna for 30 years and my husband for 9 year. I am a trained classical pianist and piano teacher, and have earned a sporadic living teaching and playing piano for 30 years. My son's non-Jewish father and I separated when our son was 6. It was a long contested custody battle. Our son spent 2 years boarding as a Vienna Choir Boy between the ages of 9 and 11. When his voice broke he chose to go to the Jewish day school here in Vienna. His teenage years were extremely difficult. At one point he went to live with his father for 2 years. When he graduated from high school he returned here to live with us. My high hopes for mIchael to experience a Jewish home where respect was given to his mother did not materialize as my son did not participate in the household. He was here only for his 'convenience'. Conflicts were the norm despite all my best efforts to create a loving home for him. His own words "why should I respect you when my own father does not?" summed up his behavior. Last April we decided to ask him to move out. He is studying law at the university. We are giving him a stipend to help him. We have also connected him to a part time job in his field. My mother also helps as does the state. Still he complains that my husband should give him more. He makes it difficult for us to give to him. His behavior toward me is the opposite of kavod l'ima. It is heartbreaking for me, not least because I see the problems that he has with other female authority figures. All his issues with me are only over money. My question to you is, what is there that I can do to create positive encouraging happy feelings and memories for us at this stage?