The quickest and most thorough way to heal the wounds caused by parenting is to do some therapy. A therapist is especially trained in techniques that will help you clear out the past and move forward in a healthy way. However, there are other techniques for healing and forgiving. For instance, if you can learn some Energy Psychology like WHEE or EFT (look these up on the net), you can clear a lot of your pain on your own. Or, by doing some deep meditation with the assistance of tools like Holosync (see www.centerpointe.com), you can clear out a lot of trauma from the deepest parts of your mind. There are also some excellent books on forgiveness such as "Forgiving the Unforgiveable." If you work on it, you'll surely succeed.  All the best,   Sarah Chana

My suggestion to you is start working on this while you're young and your life is ahead of you. I didn't begin healing from my childhood wounds until I was in my 40's and I really regret the loss of so much of my adulthood to unresolved pain.

You'll understand your parents better when you get older and start parenting yourself. You can do some forgiveness now, but be prepared to keep doing it throughout your lifetime!