Once a child has been taken out of diapers, he shouldn't be put back in them. The teacher may be confusing him by sometimes diapering him. He is correct - he is a big boy and should not be in diapers now. Rather, the teacher should take him to the bathroom before his nap. Once he knows that there are no more diapers at nap time, he'll probably stop using his pants as a diaper. However it is essential not to go back to the diapers ever again. If he still continues to have accidents after three weeks of no diapers, then perhaps the teacher can wake him during the nap. However, I doubt this will be necessary. The body just gets used to voiding at certain times. He should go to the washroom right before and after each nap and that should solve the problem.   Also, at home, you can continue to wake him in the middle of the night in order to help him through the night dryly. You can experiment with stopping that routine at any point to see if he is able to stretch his dryness till morning, but it's up to you when you want to start that experiment. You should probably wait until the daytime issues are all settled.  Good luck!   Sarah Chana

For question 2. It's no problem to wake him up for a toilet visit, but you could try not waking him up some time and see if he stays dry all night. If the child is well toilet trained then waking him up at night for going potty should not be necessary but it's not a bad thing if you still do it. It won't harm the child himself. My advice is to try a few days a week not to wake him for midnight potty time and see if he stays dry all night.

As for question one, I agree with SCR. There is no need for him to be diapered again and it's clear from his own words toward the teacher that he doesn't want to. His teacher probably doesn't want to wake him during nap time because they think he'll not go back to sleep or because it could wake other kids. Diapering him when he doesn't want them will lead only to him feeling bad about it. In his mind he'll feel like a baby for having to wear a diaper when he doesn't want to.

If the teachers don't want to wake him during nap time because it might wake the others then you could consider having them see if he can skip nap time. since he's three it's well possible that he won't need to sleep during the day anymore and you can start trying to keep him up. You could say when child is at school he doesn't need to go to sleep if he's not tired, but at home he still does. If he's not ready to skip naptime yet or you don't want him to then you will however need to make it very clear to your child's teacher, and the teachers boss if the teacher won't listen, that she can't diaper him anymore and is to take him to the toilet before he has to take his nap.

The problem with her diapering him is that the child will feel inferior to his clasmates because he has to wear a diaper and they don't and as he says he's a big boy and doesn't want to. Also in the long run diapering a child who's already potty trained could result in the undoing of his potty training and him wetting himself at home again as well! As the child's teacher she has an obligation to do what is best for the child and Diapering a well potty trained child is NOT good for the child.