Take off her diapers and let her run around the house naked. Catch her when she obviously is trying to make a poo and drop her on the potty. It will just happen then and she'll get over her fear after a few successes.

Take her to the potty every half hour to "try." One of those times she'll end up having to make.

Promise her the toy of her dreams if she poops in the potty. After you've given her that, then promise her a small food treat for each time she goes. Ignore the mistakes completely - no comments.

Some kids are quite frightened to have a bowel movement in the toilet. Offering them Bach Flowers for a few days can reduce this fear. For instance, the child can take the remedy called "mimulus" and then go through the parent's training program. The mimulus can help make the terror go away and so the potty training will go much easier. Generally, when potty trailing DO NOT allow the child to wear diapers of any kind. Training pants can be used. Although it's a bit messy, the mess itself is part of the cure. The child will not like the sensation of wet and cold that happens during an accident in cotton underclothing. These sensations are minimal in the dry-weave disposable diapers we have today. Be sure to refrain from punishment or reprimand for accidents. Highlight the positive.  And don't worry - every child will learn to use the toilet sooner or later.    Sarah Chana