Now that you know that your daughter prefers gifts to cash, simply get her gifts in the future. You can make a guess as to what she'd like and if you're wrong, you're wrong but at least you will have tried. There is no need for your daughter to hide her feelings (although I certainly hope she wasn't rude). Her disappointment doesn't indicate that she's spoiled. Rather, it seems that she just wants to know you are putting some thought and care her way. Instead of assuming it is impossible to get her a suitable gift, listen to what she talks about during the year with gifts in mind. Is she a fan of some music group? Does she want a gift certificate to download songs or movies? Does she travel - would she like the latest in travel bags or other related gifts? Does she have a phone that she would love to upgrade or get some accessories for? Does she enjoy fashion, books, baking, entertainment? If you pay attention (and I guess that is what she's after) you should be able to get her a gift that is appropriate and thoughtful.   Sarah Chana

Thank you Sarah Chana for your kind, thoughtful and very helpful response. My daughter wasn't rude at all and after all was said and done we voted this one of our best Christmas's ever. My daughter is planning a 6 week trip through Europe this summer with a girl friend so your idea about a travel bag was perfect. I can't wait to surprise her with a very nice bag from a collection that we can add to over time. Thank you and I expect I'll have other questions needing answers as time goes by. You are a godsend!