Toddlers - sweet as they are - can also be maddening. They seem to live in a little world of their own and often don't care what grownups want them to do. You already know that yelling isn't good and you've probably experienced that it isn't helpful (and in fact, may make the problematic behavior even worse). Many kids aren't ready for real discipline until they're around 3. Till then, your best bet is to give tons of loud, positive attention to good behavior and give as little attention as possible to wrong behaviors. When you're toddler is doing the wrong thing, just go right up to her and steer her toward a more appropriate activity, giving her lots of praise for doing what she's supposed to be doing. Don't even talk about the undesirable behavior. This age child is small enough that you can pick her up and transport her physically to a better location (i.e. away from the toilet and toward the play area). If she doesn't come when called, just go get her and take her hand. Don't expect her to be a good listener at this age. Just keep calm and positive and hopefully, she'll turn into a good listener in a year or two!   Sarah Chana

Some kids have hearing problems - make sure you get her checked out. Maybe she can't hear your instructions.

There's other kinds of problems that cause kids not to listen - like auditory processing deficits. But you won't know until she's older and can be tested (I think she needs to be 5 or 6). This means that the child hears you just fine but can't carry out the instruction because her brain doesn't file it properly.

Hey, it's probably nothing. Toddlers like to do things their own way, that's all. Just be patient and use Radcliffe's CLeaR Method (to reinforce listening behavior) and she'll be just fine.