I'm so glad you brought this subject up! I thought I was the only one dealing with it - nobody seems to talk about this. My husband likes to get my kids up in the morning, make them breakfast, make them lunch, make them dinner, give them baths and put them to bed! My kids go to him for everything and I feel I've been totally marginalized. When I complain, he tells me how ungrateful I am since he thinks he's the best husband in the world. If I try to explain that I need to be a mother just as much as he apparently does, he tells me I'm ridiculous. I cannot get through to him. As a result, I've pretty well given up. Since I have so much free time, I've taken on some extra studies, a few volunteer activities and other things - I do work outside the home as well - but since I've been squeezed out, I pretty much developed a life of my own. I know this is bad for everyone except my husband, but I'm tired of fighting and getting nowhere.

Why don't you guys get some marital counseling? This doesn't sound right if only because you aren't happy with what's happening in your home. My husband and I have had excellent experiences with counseling but the first time we went were on the verge of divorce after 14 years of arguments. Once we saw how easily our issues were resolved, we so regretted waiting all those years in misery! I urge you to enlist professional help now!