My 5 year old is very negative. She's always making sour faces and complaining about everything. It's very hard to squeeze a smile out of her because something is always wrong in her eyes. Also, everything has to be exactly her way or she throws a tantrum. But if I ask her to do things my way, she's totally contrary: if I ask her to button up her sweater because it's cold, she'll take it off and throw it on the floor. If I tell her it's time to turn off the T.V., she screams, "don't bother me now!" I sometimes think she is like a mouthy teenager. My husband and I are soft spoken respectful people - she doesn't learn this behavior from us. In fact, I have no idea where it comes from. Worse still, I have no idea how to get her to be more cooperative and polite.
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| Your daughter sounds just like my son. We didn't know what we were doing wrong. We ended up taking him to a psychologist for an evaluation and she said that he had "childhood depression." This sounded really scary at first but she explained that in kids depression looks like general irritability, bad mood and low grade chronic anger or miserableness - all of which was a good description of Sol. She suggested some antidepressants but we're more into natural therapies so I took my son to our homeopath for treatment. He isn't perfect yet, but he is a lot better.
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| We used Bach Flower Therapy for our chronically miserable 6 year old and I have to say it worked miracles! I didn't think it could do anything but a friend of mine convinced me that I had nothing to loose by trying to before I put my son on meds. I couldn't believe how it changed him! He was himself only without the antagonism. He's been on and off Bach Flowers for 2 years now (they are only taken when needed) and he has longer and longer stretches where he is fine without them. I was told that he would eventually outgrow the need for the flowers for his condition. We'll see. Meanwhile, I'm just grateful it's kicking in.
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| I also found Bach Flower Remedies helped my moody, negativistic child. My husband was impressed enough to try them for his own stress and he was pleasantly surprised to find that they really helped. This is such a great healing tool for children's bad mood, anxiety and fear, temper tantrums and more and it's great for parents who are stressed, exhausted, worried or enraged. As my Bach Flower Practitioner said to me, "it's a cheap, harmless experiment. Try it and see if it works."
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| My moody child improved when we took the junk food out of his diet. Maybe he was sensitive to sugar or some chemicals. Whatever it was, he just became calmer, more flexible and happier when we improved his diet.
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| We discovered that our miserable daughter was suffering from gluten intolerance. When we modified her diet, she became a new person. I guess there are a lot of things that can cause unpleasant personality traits!
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