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| i had the same problem and found after 3 days it actually does work. You have to let them cry and be very firm. Let them know you are there, but DO NOT come in. If you come in and pick them up u are just teaching them that if they cry for, say 15 min, you will them come, so that's what they will do. You need to teach them that they can put themselves back to sleep. Good Luck!
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| What is the worst case scenario if you let the baby cry himself to sleep? Does this leave deep emotional scars?
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| My kid didn't sleep till he was 2 years old but then he started sleeping the whole night long. Can you just wait a bit longer?
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| My baby didn't sleep through the night till he was 18 months old. I didn't want to do the ferber thing - not for me - so it took longer. I like what Dr. Sears has to say and also the book "The No Cry Sleep Solution".
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| No one knows for sure. It usually scars the mother if the baby cries herself to sleep! It may be that a baby feels abandoned at some level but if daytime mothering is secure, it is unlikely that the night time experience will completely unravel the trust that's been established. However, if there is daytime stress in the home or the baby's routine, then night time upset will obviously be less well tolerated and may even aggravate the baby's adjustment. Nonetheless, it is not only the baby who must be considered. The mother needs her sleep in order to be a decent mother so this is a primary concern as well. Mothers have always found the way that worked best for them and their babies - one person's answer may not suit another.
Sarah Chana
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