Well here is the good news a child can like a parent who sets boundaries if you set them properly, so each parent ideally should have a ratio that is 80%  positive good feeling with their children and only 20%  boundary setting or not so good feeling kinds  of interactions each parent ideally should have that ratio so that most of your own interaction with your  kid should be so pleasant that your kids know that you love them and they should feel safe and comfortable with you and if  you send them to bed they should just tolerate that just fine, so we don’t want to play good cop bad cop in the sense that one parent holds all of the negative interactions and the other parent holds all of the loving ones, you need to be balanced, ideally your husband needs to be balanced, but  if he’s not its still ok for you to be balanced and  him to be unbalanced except for the part that its frustrating for you, if you would like to ease that frustration you might try to take him to a family counsellor maybe he needs some confidence or some techniques that would help him to be able to disciple without anger perhaps he is afraid of his own anger,  his temper or something maybe he  needs some skills so you could try suggesting that but whether he goes or doesn’t go your own ability to disciple your kids in a kind and respectful way will ensure that they will love you so don’t stop doing it, continue doing what you are doing and see if you can help your husband along as well

 

Sarah Chana