Hello moms!!! I need some advice!!! I have 3 kids a 5yr old daughter,7 yr old son, & 10yr old daughter. My 5 yr old daughter was in preschool with a little girl who lives right down the street. The girls hit it off & the mom started asking for my daughter to come over for a playdate. She is my baby and I get nervous about the playdate thing at such a young age. But the mom kept pressuring me (she had a degree in psychology & is a know-it-all) so finally gave in.
I dropped my daughter off at their house & the girls were thrilled. I called an hour & a half later to check on her & the mom said..." oh yeah...she is fine. But maybe you could bring her a change of clothes. They made a mess with the sidewalk chalk so threw them in the bath together. I don't have any clothes in her size & they have been naked wrapped in a blanket watching cartoons for the past 20 minutes." Whoa.....totally grossed me out. The girl has a 8 yr old brother who was home & thought that was tacky. Maybe I am over reacting but I have always taught my kids to be very shy about their privates & this was not something I would have done. The mom must have sensed my anxiety because she said "oh...I hope that was ok". What could I say after the fact? Anyway...I tried not to think about it & let it go.
The mom called again a few days later & wanted my daughter to play again....I said why don't the little girl come over here & play. What a handfull!! She destroyed my whole upstairs in 5 minutes & is very high maintenance. She doesn't play nice with the toys and bangs things on the floor & wall. She kept hitting my daughters dolls in the face & said lets play kill the babies. I totally witnessed Dr. Jeckel & Mr. Hyde. What a monster! I told her she had to play nice with the toys or she would have to go home. She kept making farting noises and being gross. When I would say something she would get emotional & was the longest 2 hours of my life!
Ok...I am rambling.... but last week the mom left another message on our machine about my daughter coming over to play. My daughter heard the message & immediately got tears in her eyes & acted really funny. She asked if the girls dad was going to be there. That seemed strange & asked her why....if her dad said or did something wrong..she said no. Then she said she didn't want to go over to the girls house ever again. I asked her why & she said she was scared & nervous. I asked her what happened & she said that because of them taking a bath & being naked. Then she said the girl was nasty & didn't want to talk about it. I keep trying to ask her questions but she says...just forget about it...Ok...so they are only 5 & maybe the girl doesn't know any better...but is really bugging me.... Do I just let it go????
She doesn't want to play with the girl again...and I don't want her to either. The mom is such a pest & keeps calling & leaving messages about my daughter coming over. She just called again & I am not picking up to avoid her. They live right down the street & don't know what to say. I would love some advice......Please help!!!!!
