It's hard enough being a "stepmom" - we get a bad rap. But my husband's ex specifically says bad things about me to my hsubands 9 yr old son. She tells him that I'm stupid, selfish, mean and other horrible things. Not surprisingly, he barely talks to me, doesn't even look at me. How am I supposed to build a relationship with him? My husband says give it time but I think I'm working against the impossible.