Tell him "no!" It doesn't matter that it makes him cry - as long as you don't scream at him, insult him or otherwise terrorize him, no psychological harm is being perpetrated. He just doesn't like to be told to stop. You need to react not only because it's painful but also because it's inappropriate. If you can, read the 2X-Rule in Raise Your Kids without Raising Your Voice in order to learn to put a permanent stop to the behavior in a respectful, but firm way. You may need to apply a negative consequence using the 2X-Rule - like telling him that he can't sit beside you or some such thing. Read up on your options and be creative.   All the best,  Sarah Chana

Why do adults worry so much these days about whether children's feelings are hurt? We never worried about that stuff. If a child doesn't like a reprimand, too bad. He misbehaved so now he's not happy. I personally think this is healthier than having grownups try to suppress their real feelings including their physical pain!