It isn't good for children to hear shouting either directly at them or at anyone else. Kids get very scared when their parents fight with each other for many reasons: fears that there will be a divorce, fears of violence, fear of something terrible happening. Loving parents don't traumatize their children and, believe me, hearing a parent shout is traumatizing for young children. You need your husband to learn how devastating parenting fighting - and, in particular - one parent shouting at another - can be for his son. However, you may not be the best person to deliver this information. Perhaps if he hears if from a respected member of the clergy or a mental health professional he will take it more to heart. In fact, a round of marriage counseling might help end the fights altogether as well as reduce or eliminate the shouting tendency. Meanwhile, when you have a discussion that is turning loud, DO NOT ask your spouse to quiet down; this predictably frustrates people and leads to louder yelling as you have observed. Instead, wait until after the fighting is over and your husband is calm and approachable and THEN remind him about the potential damage to your child. Continue with marriage counseling until the yelling completely stops.  All the best,  Sarah Chana

Tell your husband that you're not going to stand by and watch your child being traumatized.Tell him he needs to go to anger management.

Tell your husband that if he can't control his volume, you're going to have to go to counseling. Usually guys don't want to go to counseling so the threat might stop him. You have to have some sort of  "threat of punishment" going on or else why should he listen to you, particularly if he doesn't get it that this is bad for your kid.

Perhaps you should simply tell your husband when he's not angry with you to try not to fight in front of the kid. If he does end up doing so tell your son to go play in his room for a bit or take your husband away from the child.