Men often have a stronger sense of discipline and correct behavior than women do (women tend to specialize in sympathy, empathy and warm fuzzy behavior). As long as a man is warm as well, he will usually be respected when he imposes his standards. However, if the warmth is lacking, he may be resented for them instead. Fathers by remarriage are at a particular disadvantage. Their discipline will not be well received until they have established a bond with the child and a track record that builds trust. Your husband should refrain from all discipline for a year or two while he concentrates on building a relationship with your kids. Once this is in place, he can begin to offer small amounts of correction and discipline. You should tell him how much your kids needs his love and how much they will come to look up to him and depend on him. After all, he is a wonderful man. But emphasize that he must take time to establish a base of power through building up the relationship first. Hopefully, he'll accept this information, but if he has questions or concerns, urge him to consult a family therapist for guidance.  Sarah Chana