It's true that negative labels can be devastating and they should never be used anywhere in family life. Healing from the effects of negative labels can be accomplished in professional psychotherapy - many therapeutic approaches offer profound healing and reprogramming that can change in your life. Another resource is a book by Louise Hay called "You Can Heal Your Life." Ms. Hay takes you step by step through a process that heals your self-concept and the effects of negative programming. Her works have helped millions of people recover from unhealthy parenting.  The good news is that you no longer have to be stuck with the results of your father's negativity. Take steps now to become a healthier, happier you.  Sarah Chana