Weaning occurs when either the baby or the mother wants it. Some babies just start becoming less interested in nursing. They nurse less and less and then not at all. This is happens particularly when the mom has already been offering food and lots of other forms of comfort and oral stimulation AND the baby goes for all of it. For example, the self-weaning baby may be still enjoying bottles or pacifiers, food, and lots of tactile and kinesthetic stimulation (hugging & rocking). Most babies have to be weaned by their moms, however, and this occurs whenever the mom is ready for it. So some mothers wean their babies at 6 weeks, others at 6 months and others at 6 years! The average period of nursing across time and culture is two to three years. So throughout history, most babies have been weaned around 30 months of age. In our culture some moms still go for the longer periods of nursing but many are eager to have their kids more independent much earlier. So there is no right or wrong here. Maybe you can find out more about your husband's position. Is he embarrassed by your nursing a bigger baby? Does he know anything about nursing outside of his experience with you and his daughter? Is he worried about anything in particular? How would he feel if you nursed longer? Also explain your views on your nursing experience and what you want. The nursing baby is easier in some ways for moms to look after, since the breast is an all-purpose soother that can bring comfort to all the mishaps of the day for the little one. Nursing also means a few minutes of downtime for Mom. If the downside of nursing isn't bothering you enough to want to wean now, there is no objective reason for weaning a 9mth old.   Sarah Chana

It's really a personal choice.  I get upset when I hear people saying that it is gross to nurse a toddler.  At one or even two they are still really babies and there is nothing wrong with nursing them.  It meets certain needs and in most cultures it is quite normal.  If you no longer want to nurse or can't for some reason then obviously that's okay too.  Just don't quit because you feel pressured to.