It sounds to me like he's not listening because he's tired. Children's behavior degenerates when they are fatigued, hungry or ill. In fact, it's no use trying to discipline them when they are in these "low battery" states. Unfortunately for you, you are getting him at his worst. The best you can do at this time of day is make sure that YOU aren't too tired to be patient and calm. The only thing that is worse than a tired toddler is a tired toddler AND a tired parent! Just be prepared daily for an uncooperative little fellow. Project ahead 20 years in your mind's eye and think how funny this will seem then (if you survive to tell the tale). All little kids are like this around their bedtime - they just degenerate. If you stay calm, sing little tunes and handle him gently - bringing him back to the tub, fetching him again and again, dressing him patiently as he wiggles and squiggles and squirms - you will be providing a wonderful model of self-control, patience and maturity. On the other hand, if YOU start degenerating - yelling, stamping your feet, getting nasty - then you are showing your youngster that adults can't deal with frustration. That could come back to haunt you. So, have a nice cup of a herbal tea that induces deep calm and relaxation, and then - get your child ready for bed.  Sarah Chana