One way to gain respect is to act more grown up than the kids. If they are rude be sure that you don't pout, walk out, have a mini-tantrum or engage in any other child-like reaction. Instead, look them in the eye and say in a very steady and serious tone of voice,"I don't appreciate the sarcasm. Please find another way to talk to me." Keep in mind that teenagers are still young kids. They still need education and guidance. Don't take their behavior personally. Rather look at it from the point of view of education: notice what is lacking and address it. Do not accept any form of rudeness or disrespect (study The RelationshipRule - "I only give and I only accept respectful communication" - in my book Raise Your Kids without Raising Your Voice). Remember to be warm to your kids as well. Kids find it easier to respect parents they love. However, warmth is not enough. The combination of warmth and boundaries will earn you the respect you deserve as a parent.  Sarah Chana