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| Sure. Sometimes teens get along really well with their parents (especially if their parents are warm, loving and able to set appropriate boundaries in a respectful way). When teens admire their parents and feel close to them, they are able to individualize - become their own people - without rejecting the values and priorities of their homes. For instance, suppose a teen felt close to her parents who happened to be devoutly religious. She may accept the religious practice that they provided, finding her own way of expressing it. Just because she takes on the values of her parents does not mean that she cannot become a separate person. Teens often reject their parents values (i.e. "rebel" ) when they don't relate that well to their parents OR when their parents have unwittingly provided them with mixed messages. For instance, a devoutly religious couple may be modeling rebellion by bad-mouthing their religious leaders or community members. In any event, the simple answer to your question is that is is fine and normal for a teenager not to rebel! Sarah Chana
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