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| Teenagers go through a lot of changes. If you're not doing anything different from before - that could be a problem! For instance, you might still be treating this young man as if he is a young child. Perhaps you haven't adjusted to his changing needs. At 14, this fellow is probably as tall as you are or taller and he wants to be treated as the adult he looks like. At his age he needs to be able to spread his wings, take more risks, make more errors. Have you been stepping back at all to make room for all this? Or are you on his case, supervising, protecting and still instilling the old rules? Giving an adolescent freedom to grow doesn't mean abstaining from parenting, but it does mean respecting your child's need to be more independent. Sometimes teens get sullen when their parents hover too much - it is the teenager's way of creating space. I have no idea if this could be the situation at your house, but you could ask your teen what HE thinks! There could be many other explanations for your son's sudden sullen behavior. Have you actually asked him why he's like this now? He may or may not know. But you can say that if there's something he wants to have changed, you are open to hearing it and trying to work it out with him. If he claims there are no problems whatsoever, you might wait it out a bit and continue to love him. If you are warm, respectful and able to assert boundaries, chances are good that he will come out of this stage and continue to have a good relationship with you always. Sarah Chana
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| my 17 year old son is doing this too. His friends and he have experienmented in pot and beer lately. But he is an A student and runs track and is good except for the way he talks to me. He "ran away" last night because I took away his car because of how he has been treating me. He yelled, cursed and ran. Just because I ask him where he is going and who he will be with. Where are those lines we need to draw? Is this asking too many questions for him?? He says to trust him...
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| my 17 year old son is doing this too. His friends and he have experienmented in pot and beer lately. But he is an A student and runs track and is good except for the way he talks to me. He "ran away" last night because I took away his car because of how he has been treating me. He yelled, cursed and ran. Just because I ask him where he is going and who he will be with. Where are those lines we need to draw? Is this asking too many questions for him?? He says to trust him...
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