You've asked a big question! I won't answer it all (I hope other readers will give their suggestions!) but I'll give you one important secret to successfully raising a large family. Forget the one-on-one attention! Instead, the parent should concentrate on setting the right tone in the home, a warm, pleasant, loving atmosphere. This means, no yelling. It means lots of joking around. It means generosity, playfulness, sympathetic listening, treats, humming, praise and all kinds of positive attention. Structure and routine can facilitate the smooth running of a large family and thereby minimize conflict and stress. There are many techniques in my book "Raise Your Kids without Raising Your Voice" that can make parenting easier and more positive at the same time. However, the most important of them all is the 80-20 Rule. The parent must keep smiling! Everyone in the household will thrive under these conditions. The children's attitudes toward each other will be better as well, so that there is more love to go around and it is not all dependent on the parents. In summary, focus on creating a pleasant atmosphere; everything else will fall into place.

Get lots of hired help! Let them focus on the cooking and cleaning and you concentrate on the kids.

Being organized really helps. Keep routines simple like making the same dinner every monday, the same every tuesday and so on so you don't have to put energy into designing menus and shopping lists - just do it once and never do it again (make seven menus and a couple of holiday/birthday menus and that's it).

When you love your kids, they know it. Just stay relaxed enough so you can show them that love - take some time for yourself each day and maybe a larger junk once a week so you can be refreshed and pleasant-they all need you to be in a good mood.