There can be many reasons why children become difficult around bedtime. Without knowing more details I'm going to offer a couple of possibilities. Sometimes children are confused around boundaries. Their bedtime rituals including time, activities and "parent time" may vary depending on the day's demands. Try as much as possible to keep these the same for each night as children generally feel more comfortable if they know what is expected of them. Bedtime is often the time when anxieties emerge so watch out for this. Are these delay tactics to keep you close? If they are, the chances are that there is some anxiety. If you're aware of anything that may be worrying your daughter, discuss this with her. Get her to name her feelings in as many ways as possible. Children have to be taught to recognize their feelings and your daughter saying "I'm too hot, too cold..." could be because she hasn't yet learnt to do this. If she is anxious around bedtime let her understand that you understand the way she is feeling and that you accept these feelings. Once she feels heard, it will be easier to introduce firm boundaries and to stick to them. - Marsha Jacobson