I'm sorry that happened to you Loretta. I agree that parents need to support each other rather than judge each other - after all, we never really know what anyone is dealing with. And when somebody goes to the effort to read a parenting book, they are obviously trying their very best to be a good parent - they should be applauded instead of insulted. If it is any comfort to you, rest assured that people with children over the age of 3 do often raise their voices and especially people who have more than one child and especially people who do not have tons of household help. In other words, you are normal! But you are also exceptional because you have identified that yelling is harmful and you are trying to stop doing it. So carry on with your good work. Maybe this lady will have more children and come back in 10 years with a little more compassion and maturity. But even if she doesn't, remember to call on your own inner compassionate parent to support you - you know you are on the right track.

I also find that parents can be so judgmental. Like if someone's kid isn't perfect, other moms start blaming the parent! This is crazy in my opinion because it isn't the mother's fault that the child isn't perfect - there are those genes and the other factors like the father, the school, the friends and so on. Why do people always blame the mother - including other mothers?

Old myths die hard - even the psychiatrists used to blame the mother for things like schizophrenia, OCD and other mental health problems. Now we know that these are genetically based illnesses, but those poor moms who were held accountable! I think that in the end we're going to find that almost all of the child's issues are genetic and not the result of bad parenting. A wild kid is wild not because his mom doesn't discipline him but because he's wild! I'm sure parents have a small role to play too but not so much. I have two kids and one is very very good and the other is, well, I won't say it but let's just say not very very good. I parent them both the same except that the not so good one gets more discipline.  But he needs more discipline so what can I do? Anyway, I never blame moms for anything! I think we're all doing the best we can.

I have to disagree - I think parents can mess their kids up. My mom was abusive and my siblings and myself all have problems from it. We all have temper problems for example and my two brothers are divorced and my sister never married but lives with an abusive partner. I don't think this is coincidence or genes. I've been in therapy forever trying to recover and I feel better now than before but it's been a hard road. Sometimes the mother IS at fault.

You know your mother might have inherited a personality disorder or maybe bipolar disorder and she also may have passed some genes on to you guys. I think that genes AND parenting play a role. Still, it's not for us to put down other mothers. If they're having a hard time, we should try to help them by praising them, being sympathetic and maybe even guiding them to a parenting book or class. None of us is perfect.

Maybe she has her OWN problem of yelling, and asked, "Who would raise their voice at their own child?", because she simply wanted to see your reaction... and see if you would judgmental of HER. 

none of is perfect well said that so right but lets not forget that dads play a big role too.Also kids learn 75% from what you do & 25% from what you say.On top of that kids learn from teachers,friends ,family etc etc  cet....most of the time it is us mothers who blaming  each other for not having a perfect child .