Internet Porn

Teens are a curious bunch. They want to learn about everything – particularly everything sexual. In today’s world, information about sexuality is available everywhere. And nowhere is it more available than on the Internet.

Kids spend a lot of time on the internet – often in the privacy of their own bedrooms. Even if they are innocently doing their homework on the computer, ads will pop up, inviting them to explore intriguing sites. At some point, even though their parents may have cautioned them, they are likely to follow the ads into the dark world of pornography.

Distorted Sex Education
Sex is a powerful biological drive. When kids start to experience sexual pleasure from the visual stimulation on the internet, they can become quickly addicted to it. Even if they feel guilty or even if they feel disgusted by what they are seeing, they can be overpowered by the chemicals releasing into their bloodstream as they form an association between physical pleasure and the images they are viewing.

Of course, the first images a teen may watch may be comparatively mild. Perhaps younger teenage boys will start by wanting to see pretty girls in scanty outfits. This may lead to sites of girls and boys being together in various ways. Eventually, more detail will be wanted, more variety and eventually more perversity. Visual sex is not like actual love-making between caring adults. It affects the brain differently. More like a cocaine habit than a human relationship, visual sex needs more and more to give the same amount of pleasure: escalating images are required to maintain the sense of pleasure. It is no longer sufficient to see a pretty girl; in the end, gross and de-humanizing sexual images will be required to satisfy the viewer.

Future Problems
A young person who gets into the habit of seeking sexual satisfaction on-line can form a chemical addiction to the activity. Hooked in the developmental years, the person will find it extremely difficult to stop later on. When there are the inevitable marriage problems in adulthood, he will turn to his self-soothing computer habit. When money is tight, the in-laws are coming, the children are overwhelming – the computer can offer escape and stress relief.

Spouses do not always support the computer habit. In fact, many marriages fail because of a partner’s “love” of the computer. Computer sex can destroy real intimacy and real relationships.

Guiding and Protecting Teen
Yes it’s a jungle out there, but it needn’t be in your home. Parents can still create the kind of home environment they want – it is still their home. Frank discussions with teens about computer porn and its enduring consequences can help teens take responsibility for their own health and happiness. Parents can share their thoughts, their values and their wishes for their youngsters. By opening discussion they can show that sexuality is a family value, not a perverse activity. They can show that they are committed to those values by letting the kids know that they will create “clean computers” – by putting porn-proofing filtering programs on the computers in the home. The kids need to know that the parents have a log of every site they’ve visited. Parents need to be parents still, supervising, caring for and guiding their kids right into their late teens. Having computers in the common living spaces such as living rooms and kitchens is also a protective measure that parents may be able to take.

Parents need to show leadership in this vital area of a child’s well-being. Although the kids can still do what they want to at their friends’ homes and elsewhere, the parents are sending a clear message that can have a powerful effect. Moreover, by keeping a clean environment at home, parents are helping to break the addiction cycle if only by slowing down access to the computer “drug.” Ultimately, teens will grow up and decide for themselves how to use their free time, but till they leave home, parents must do their best to expose them to the values that promote long term health and happiness.

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